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THE CHRONOS AND KAIROS MOMENTS

Edited for you only. Enjoy!!! *CHRONOS OR KAIROS?* Ë YAO AGBENYO Do you know that we live in a chronos world? Have you ever met a kairos moment? how long has it been since you had a kairos moment in this chronos world? Well, lets define some terms. The Greek language, the official language of the new testament of the holy bible, uses two diverse words for time; CHRONOS and KAIROS. CHRONOS TIME derives chronology (don’t ask why these big words? It is the pride of the language student. Chronos time is drudgery time, it is the ticking tock tickling clock measured time: each second is exactly like the one that went before it. Chronos time has no urgency. It is let the time go fast for me to go home: that is chronos time. A sketch of the chronos time Under what circumstances do we say a person is having a chronos time? #. Picture an insomnia patient, lying on a hospital bed: can not rest, can`t sleep, can`t dream. All he can is to hear the relentless tick tocking of the clock pounding in his ears, waiting for day break- he`s having a chronos time, empty, void, no action, no goal no aim, a wasted time. #. Picture a Ghanaian teacher who hates his job, and to add perjury to injury, his pay is less than the policeman who spends six months at the Winneba beach, shouting and having fun while he (the teacher) toiled under pressure in UEW for three years with another hectic one year in the hands of traitors who do not want anyone to reach where they are let alone talk of passing them. (I could not make even a third class,i could only manage a pass, why should I let you have a first class? Second lower gͻhaa mεkpͻgε`o, second lower mpo baa bͻ bo. εbε bͻ `u) ‘YET IN ALL THESE WE ARE MORE THAN CONQUERORS’. Picture this teacher, waiting for the bell to sound so he could leave to his home. He is having a chronos time; void, empty, useless, a wasted time. Imagine an unconverted sinner, prayerless hence powerless, no conviction, listening to a powerless preacher talk of prosperity and power when all he needs is a message of salvation in the name of JESUS CHRIST that liberates a desperate soul, waiting to hear ‘in jesus` name we pray’ for him to depart. That is a chronos time. Empty, void, wasted time. Imagine Pegu, Yon Kon, Ataa Ayi or Tetteh Mpata in prison checking on the calendar every now and then, crying foul ‘when am I gonna leave this place’…void, useless, wasted time. Imagine yourself, at a boring long humourless lecture, bored to tears wanting the lecture to end for you to leave. A chronos time, void, empty, wasted time. Picture a lecturer at Maalam junction before February 2012, without a laptop in a hurry to conduct a quiz. When am I gonna leave here? That`s a chronos time. Void, empty, wasted time. ‘Chronos time is empty, meaningless. It is humdrum time. A void time that must be filled. It is time we put in, pass, endure or wish away’… says James Morre. When we talk of killing time, it is a chronos time. That is what the counselor and lecturer in UEW, Dr. Bedu-Addo calls ‘A WASTED TIME, WASTING TIME’. *‘BEWARE OF CHRONOS TIMES, FOR THEY ARE MORE OF ARMED ROBBERS THAN PROCRASTINATION’-* E. Agbenyo 2011 *THE KAIROS TIME* This is the embodiment of those rich, extra special, significant, dramatic moments that are packed with meaning, MOMENTS THAT STAND OUT WITH YOU AND STAY FOR A LIFE TIME. Kairos time is full time ,GOD`S TIME, (I mean Jehovah the ancient of days, the alpha and omega`s time). It’s a vital time, crucial and decisive time, a rich moment that breaks into the humdrum and changes your life for better, a power packed moment when all things seem to fall in place, a new perspective comes, a great paradigm shift occurs and God seems to be speaking to us so loud and clear. That is Kairos time, full time, God`s time. Theologians call it the MOMENT OF REVELATION. When you first meet the one you love and you seize the moment to say it, that is a kairos time. When a preacher meets an azonto dancer, that is kairos time (he knows that he either gets that soul for Christ NOW! Or NEVER)… that is a kairos moment. When a pastor meets nakedness and profanity on his or her pews, it`s a kairos moment. NOW or NEVER!!!!. When a friend meets a needy man, when your choir is prayerless, when you meet a proud man, when you meet a sad man, a desperate neglected and rejected man, you can sooth or you can seethe, that`s a kairos moment, NOW OR NEVER!!!! Kairos is a key word used in the new testament of the Holy Bible, when Jesus preached, he says ‘…the time is fulfilled, the kingdom of heaven is at hand’ The word used there is kairos and not chronos. MY LORD`S LIFE WAS FULL OF KAIROS MOMENTS. SPECIAL AND DRAMATIC TIME… He says; ‘I must work the works of him that sent me while it is day The night cometh when no man can work.’ CHRONOS TIME, LIKE GROWTH, IS QUANTITATIVE WHILE KAIROS IS QUALITATIVE. How about you, how long has it been since you had a kairos moment? Do you realize life while you live it or you allow every opportunity to slip by before you say had I known? Elections are coming very soon, are you in level 100? AGBENYO SAYS GO FOR A POSITION, DEVELOP YOURSELF WHILE ON CAMPUS. TAKE AN EXTRA COURSE. IMPROVE YOURSELF! IT IS NOW OR NEVER. DON`T LOOK AT YOUR AGE OR SIZE, SAY NOT THAT I AM BUT A LITTLE CHILD, GO FOR GOLD, I SAY YOU CAN. SHOOT FOR THE MOON, IF YOU MISS IT, YOU LAND AMONGST THE STARS, BUT IF YOU SHOOT FOR THE STARS AND YOU MISS, WHERE DO YOU LAND? Of course BACK TO ZERO POINT. THINK ABOUT YOUR LIFE, WHAT CAN YOU LAY YOUR HANDS ON AND SAY THAT YESTERDAY I DID THIS? WILL TODAY TOO PASS YOU BY LIKE YESTERDAY? Listen to the French Romantic writers, they say CARPE DIEM- *seize the moment*, do something worthwhile. when you are not around, will anyone miss you? Will someone say If agbenyo were here, this would not have been this, or that would have been this? WHAT ARE YOU TO BE REMEMBERED FOR? Ë YAO AGBENYO CEO, YAFINC fb.me/eyaoagbenyo yaoagbenyo.blogspot.com *Copyright material, No duplicates please, (extracted from Yao Agbenyo`s GUIDING GADGETS FOR GOAL GETTERS. 2011)*

HOW TO DEAL WITH SIBLING RIVALRY

HOW TO DESTROY SIBLING RIVALRY Sibling rivalry is the kind of resentment/hatred siblings feel towards each other when one feels that the other is having preferential trade opportunities at home. . It is expected, especially in Africa where even your distant relatives are seen as your brothers and sisters, that siblings cling tightly to each other no matter the situation, However, where there is rivalry, SIBLINGS CAN BECOME ENEMIES. Siblings are the immediate family a man thinks of before anyone else, yet the canker of sibling rivalry has set many a hitherto peaceful family ablaze. I don't want to sound morbid, overly sensational or too personal, but it would interest you to know what things I have suffered in the hands of my senior siblings because I've been the favourite of my mum. A very good friend last asked me after listening to my story; he said, I THOUGHT YOU EWES ARE VERY GOOD AT FAMILY BONDING? Yes! That's a universal truth but sibling rivalry knows no tribe! Its just as ubiquitous as mosquitoes! Do you remember how Joseph's siblings hated him to the point of even selling him off into a foreign land all because THEIR FATHER LOVED HIM MORE? That is the result we get when parents seem to overtly love one chilld more than all their other children. Probably, you are the one being hated by other siblings; they are never ready to help you, they always scold you for any little mistake, they always try to "bulley" or cow you into submission. No amount of good you do appeals to them. You have become rivals with your siblings competing fo the love and attention of your parents. Its just like a man in love with a girl and seeing that girl always with another person. Its painful, right? Well, it's just the same in this case. Sibling rivalry is a great problem that needs to be tackled in all homes. Sometimes, it sadly grows even into old age where siblings dont talk to each other, no visits, no calls, no love for eachother. Just resentment and hatred till hell. Since its a mother's day, I dedicate this piece to my mum Madam Grace Aku Amegah, my wife, (maybe to be) and all other godly women who are impacting lives. I LOVE YOU! NOW How do we handle this? 1. Parents should avoid buying gifts for one child, ignoring or neglecting all the others. 2. Parents should avoid always sending one particular child only. 3. Parents should avoid scolding or beating one particular child all the time while shielding the other from punishment. 4. Parents should be fair in heaping praises and distributing gifts. 5. Stop comparing your children to others. They are unique in their own ways. 6. Avoid using words like useless, dumb, good for nothing, old man! Block headed etc. 7. Praise your children often, and encourage them with laughter and love at home. 8. Settle disagreements between kids fairly. Don't take sides. 9. When they bring their result home from school, be wise in drawing comparisons. 10. Love your children unconditionally and don't let them take your attention from your husband!!! HE WOULD FEEL JEALOUS TOO!!! NOW CHILDREN Children must understand that some people would always be better than others; life is not a competition. Children should learn to take joy in the happiness of the other. Learn to share what you have with your siblings; if its an award you had in school and your senior brother didn't perform well there, don't tease and laugh at him but rather make him feel part of the glory. If its a gift you got from someone for running errands or something, bring it home and share with your siblings. When every child is taught to love and appreciate the efforts of others, rivalry can be brought to the lowest end. WHAT IS THE FEELING OF RIVALRY LIKE IN YOUR AREA, WHAT BETTER WAYS CAN WE TACKLE SIBLING RIVALRY? SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON MY FACEBOOK WALL. AT AGBENYO EBENEZER YAO OH GIVE US HOMES BUILT FIRM UPON JESUS. Ë YAO AGBENYO LIFE/CAREER COACH +233543556235 CEO, YAFinc.

THE BREAKFAST OF GREATNESS

*THE BREAKFAST OF GREATNESS* Once a young promising lawyer came to me, and was like, "Eben" so many people just hate me and I don't understand. I look around and I can't find the one single reason for this hatred. I need support to do this and that, but no one is ready. People find problems with everything I do yet they can't explain what exactly it is I've done wrong to them. The more I tried to please them, the more they get offended! Eben, tell me something! What is happening? Is there any hope for my future? I'm troubled! What should I do again? I looked her straight in the face, Smiled, nodded my big head and said: "WELCOME TO THE LAND OF SUCCESS AND INFLUENCE" Then I burst out laughing! "You are not blessed until you are envied!" And a clear indication of envy is hatred without reason! The evidence of success is the envy of others!" No one ever envies anything inferior? Do you ever envy a man sitted on a refuse dump? How on earth does anyone envy something lower than himself? No one is envious of a mediocre good for nothing rubbish? so if you are hated, it clearly means you have greatness inside of you! You are not ordinary!!! This is why you should even be happy that people hate you. They envy you! Because you refuse to be normal! You are too promising for them! You will become too prominent!! When you do what everyone does, you become like everyone. With that, they can trample you down and run over you, and there, you have no oppositions, no confrontations! But once you refuse to flow with the tide, once you decide to stand out and shine above your peers, expect stones and cutlasses and spoilt fruits to be thrown at you. What else do you expect? To be an influence, to be prominent, you need to stand out. You need to be unique in your speech, voice, dressing and walk. Even in relations! You need to be exceptional and command some air of respect and admiration. Decency and decorum must be your hallmarks. Distinguish yourself from the crowd. Those who wish to be like you but can't, will definitely throw stones of "you are becoming too fair, you sound too artificial, you dress too much, who do you think you are, you take too much upon yourself, you are too knowing, you are too exuberant! Too zealous!" and so much more. They will call you names all aimed at reducing you to their level. Let's say you broadcast your writings and paintings or drawings or some special things you have done, its only envy and jealousy that will make others fight you based on these things when you have actually done them no wrong! Some times, even your facebook posts and stuffs will irritate others and they will come at you with strong opposition. Many won't like nor share your posts because they think you are not qualified to say some of the things you say. Others will refuse to support you just because they think you will become too big or great if they should support you. But friend, those are the prices great people pay. It will take you arduous and tortuous climbing of herculean mountains to get to the top of the ladder of influence. Or you want something cheap? At such times, the Christian goes to God in prayer. Perseverance comes to play and She sings. He prays. They praise and worship God, thanking Him for the opportunity to become influential in life. Now. What do you want in life? What do you want to do with your life? What do you hope to make out of school? What is your goal for this relationship? What is your hope after school? Where do you see yourself after 50years? How are you pursuing these things? Have you written them down? These are the things you must not take your eyes off. These are the things that should occupy your mind. These are the things you should be praying about and not crying about the hatred of some mediocre people in life. You were saved to make impacts, to fulfil a purpose. Seek that and pursue it! PURSUE GREATNESS!!! THERE IS A PLACE FOR YOU AT THE TOP!!! GO FOR IT!!! ©Ë YAO AGBENYO (CEO @yafinc) +233543556235 facebook.com/yafinc Fb.me/eyaoagbenyo yaoagbenyo.blogspot.com

New meaning of GALAMSEY....

*GALAMSEY* Ë YAO AGBENYO Whenever we hear the term GALAMSEY, it takes our minds to the illegal mining activities of some Chinese in Ghana. Its very sad to note that the Ghanaian Government looks on while these Chinese exploit and molest our people on our own land. Xenophobia, has also kept the Ghanaians away from confronting these Chinese to demand their rights. Our police service does very little to help the situation: the Chinese have arrogated to themselves portions of land that cannot be stepped on by the natives, they rape our people, they exploit our children and molest our mothers and fathers while they, the illegal migrants live in affluence and enjoyment at the expense of the owners of the land. One really wonders whether our police are afraid of these people and whether colonialism is still with us or the neo colonialism prophesied by the prophet Kwame Nkrumah is supposed to take this form. BUT WELL, However, current trends reveal a different meaning to the term *GALAMSEY*. Before I reveal this new meaning, let me state that I have also a number of times used the word anytime I wanted to sneak out of school to teach elsewhere or do some other work as a hard working man, for some coins. Oscar Wilde coined the word *"bunbury"* through his fictitious dramatic persona, Algernon Moncrief in *The Importance of Being Earnest.* The term bunbury is used by Algy in reference to a non existent friend of his, whose sick bed he's constantly being summoned to, anytime he wanted to sneak out and go have fun or meet a lover in town. Eventually he has to tell a lie that his friend has died in order to stop his deception. "Bunbury" then refers to *SNEAKING OUT TO DO SOMETHING ILLEGAL.* Now to our SECRET NEW MEANING What Oscar Wilde calls bunburying is the center of our discussion today. In one Senior high school I had an internship, the students and teachers coined this term to refer to something else. As stated earlier, I used the term to refer to my sneaking out to teach or do some work elsewhere for "noko fioooo". Then a student came for counseling, and there she revealed many things I never paid attention to. Amongst her revelations is some teachers' constant pestering for sexual exchanges.(some are just mere allegations based on suspicions)Two of these teachers who she claimed had proposed to her are married with children. One I later discovered was an elder in a big church. *Yet they want to use my girl for a garden.* In spite of having lawful wives and children at home, these teachers still had an evil and inordinate desire to sleep with the very students they teach. Sadly (if true). The girl further mentioned several names who are dating one teacher or the other and those who have advised her to accept the proposals with numerous sumptuous deceptive words describing such a DESTRUCTIVE ACTION. I went to the field as an expert counselor who doesn't work with rumors and one man stories, to verify her claims. The results were stupendous!!! You could find one teacher dating about five or more of these students whose future is still in the molding. This action must be condemned. Teachers should try as much to control themselves and avoid any amorous relationship with their students. Surprisingly, the students find it a thing of pride to be dating a teacher, and those "privileged" to be in a sexual date with teachers look down on those dating "small boys" (their mates) and they ain't ashamed to even let you know!!! THEY CALL THIS GALAMSEY!!! It is there in your corporate office, in your church, the banks, even the psychiatry and in government establishments. Its not only in schools. This galamsey is illegal and is different from a clean relationship that leads to marriage. GALAMSEY, whether in its modern terms or former meaning must be condemned. What do you say? *©Ë Yao Agbenyo* +233543556235 fb.me/eyaoagbenyo www.yaoagbenyo.blogspot.com www.facebook.com/yafinc

*GALAMSEY* Ë YAO AGBENYO Whenever we hear the term GALAMSEY, it takes our minds to the illegal mining activities of some Chinese in Ghana. Its very sad to note that the Ghanaian Government looks on while these Chinese exploit and molest our people on our own land. Xenophobia, has also kept the Ghanaians away from confronting these Chinese to demand their rights. Our police service does very little to help the situation: the Chinese have arrogated to themselves portions of land that cannot be stepped on by the natives, they rape our people, they exploit our children and molest our mothers and fathers while they, the illegal migrants live in affluence and enjoyment at the expense of the owners of the land. One really wonders whether our police are afraid of these people and whether colonialism is still with us or the neo colonialism prophesied by the prophet Kwame Nkrumah is supposed to take this form. BUT WELL, However, current trends reveal a different meaning to the term *GALAMSEY*. Before I reveal this new meaning, let me state that I have also a number of times used the word anytime I wanted to sneak out of school to teach elsewhere or do some other work as a hard working man, for some coins. Oscar Wilde coined the word *"bunbury"* through his fictitious dramatic persona, Algernon Moncrief in *The Importance of Being Earnest.* The term bunbury is used by Algy in reference to a non existent friend of his, whose sick bed he's constantly being summoned to, anytime he wanted to sneak out and go have fun or meet a lover in town. Eventually he has to tell a lie that his friend has died in order to stop his deception. "Bunbury" then refers to *SNEAKING OUT TO DO SOMETHING ILLEGAL.* Now to our SECRET NEW MEANING What Oscar Wilde calls bunburying is the center of our discussion today. In one Senior high school I had an internship, the students and teachers coined this term to refer to something else. As stated earlier, I used the term to refer to my sneaking out to teach or do some work elsewhere for "noko fioooo". Then a student came for counseling, and there she revealed many things I never paid attention to. Amongst her revelations is some teachers' constant pestering for sexual exchanges.(some are just mere allegations based on suspicions)Two of these teachers who she claimed had proposed to her are married with children. One I later discovered was an elder in a big church. *Yet they want to use my girl for a garden.* In spite of having lawful wives and children at home, these teachers still had an evil and inordinate desire to sleep with the very students they teach. Sadly (if true). The girl further mentioned several names who are dating one teacher or the other and those who have advised her to accept the proposals with numerous sumptuous deceptive words describing such a DESTRUCTIVE ACTION. I went to the field as an expert counselor who doesn't work with rumors and one man stories, to verify her claims. The results were stupendous!!! You could find one teacher dating about five or more of these students whose future is still in the molding. This action must be condemned. Teachers should try as much to control themselves and avoid any amorous relationship with their students. Surprisingly, the students find it a thing of pride to be dating a teacher, and those "privileged" to be in a sexual date with teachers look down on those dating "small boys" (their mates) and they ain't ashamed to even let you know!!! THEY CALL THIS GALAMSEY!!! It is there in your corporate office, in your church, the banks, even the psychiatry and in government establishments. Its not only in schools. This galamsey is illegal and is different from a clean relationship that leads to marriage. GALAMSEY, whether in its modern terms or former meaning must be condemned. What do you say? *©Ë Yao Agbenyo* +233543556235 fb.me/eyaoagbenyo www.yaoagbenyo.blogspot.com www.facebook.com/yafinc